Out of Orbit

I've been thinking about friendship. I had a small get together in September of friends I hadn't seen in a while. The friends that were there were friends met at different points in my life and each of them hold special significance for me.

Its nearly December now & I'm about to go back to New Zealand.  I'm flogging myself a little, sadly, because I have seen so few people here in WA, and wishing that the time remaining wasn't so short, and wishing I had more time to see more people.

In the theory of  Love Languages I found that Quality Time (QT) is 2nd of my top two languages. (Words of Affirmation = my # 1).  Having QT as my second love language means that it is the second best way of making me feel like I am completely and utterly adored. I cherish when people want to hang out, go on a hike, make sugar cookies, watch movies, throw a party, take a road trip, have coffee, go on a drive, etc, etc, etc.

It connects me to others and I LOVE it!

There are also friends I wish I was still connected with. People who have made amazing impacts on me. Some have kids or are in different cities... or we just don't connect anymore.

We've fallen out of orbit.

It is an interesting thing that I am learning.  The lessons of loss and love.  So often we only know loss and love via death and romance.  But somewhere in the middle is the way more common love and loss of friendships that change and mold us into who we are today.

To all friends loved and lost, my "out of orbits"  I say "I'm sorry for not sharing my present with you. I am missing you and thinking of you on a daily basis."


~Lu